“He said – I’m already with the Russian.” How guest workers get second wives in Russia

Shakhzoda Mirodova (surname changed — Aut.) from Bukhara viloyat (region) 26 years old, and she already has three children — two girls and a boy. She was married for five years. Her husband Shavkat left for a construction site in Yekaterinburg and once a year appeared at home — make another baby. Then he stopped coming. 

“At first he just disappeared, — Shahzoda is angry. — Then he showed up, writes to me in votsap — I don't want to go back, I like Russia. And soon I look — I started posting photos on social networks: with a woman in a wedding dress, fifteen years older than him! I write him — Are you out of your mind? You haven't officially divorced me yet! And he — “leave me alone, fool, I'm already from Russian””. Shahzoda turned to the police of Uzbekistan — they made a request to Yekaterinburg, but they did not find Shavkat. He also retired from social media. “It seems that he received Russian citizenship and changed his name, — wipes Shahzod's tears. — I feel like an idiot. They don’t send money for children at all. I ask if she will file for divorce. “Oh, I don’t know, — woman waving. — Who needs me? Suddenly it will be back. 

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“There was a shout throughout the street”

I'm surprised — after all, in the passports of Uzbekistan, a note is made about marriage. How then do migrant workers become bigamists in Russia? It turns out there is a whole system. “A person allegedly loses his passport, takes a certificate, a temporary certificate, — explains aif.ru lawyer Mirza Abdulkhodzhaev. — With her, he can work in Russia, his identity is confirmed. Then, without any problems, he marries a citizen of the Russian Federation and can apply for Russian documents … he receives a Russian passport and no stamps about a previous marriage will appear in Uzbekistan there. It happens that the Russian wives of Uzbek migrant workers find out about the existence of the “first family”; and fly to Uzbekistan to sort things out. “My neighbor’s husband — Karimbek, lives in St. Petersburg for five years, lays asphalt, — says housewife Onakhon Islamova (name changed — Aut.) from Andijan. Sends money properly. And suddenly a woman of forty years old appears on her doorstep, her name is Lyudmila. And immediately scandalize — Karimbek is my husband, you must divorce him! It turns out that they have been living together legally for four years, Luda accidentally found out about her first wife. There was a shout throughout the street, it almost came to a fight».

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“They find older women”

There are even more “civil marriages”, without registration: a person moves from Uzbekistan to Russia, has an affair with a new lady and breaks ties with the former family. «Dear, what do you want? — asks me a 55-year-old fruit vendor Gulyam Mukhammedov— two of his sons work as a taxi driver in Moscow. — A young guy from a distant village comes to Moscow and goes crazy. Skyscrapers, wealth, luxury restaurants. Beautiful women, affordable alcohol. And most importantly — there are no neighbors ready to judge you for “wrong behavior”. Without female attention, many are hard. So it begins … Often, young Uzbeks find older women in Russia who know how to cook and take care — well, “mommy”, you understand. Alas, some men are simple — whoever is near, he loves. Family, children are somewhere far away, as if they do not exist. They live on women's support, get used to not working. All this is difficult. They deceive Russian girls — I have not heard anyone admit that he has a family in Uzbekistan. Sometimes it's downright sad. My neighbor's son worked in Novosibirsk for three years, saving money for a wedding. The bride was chosen by her parents, from a good family. Married, went back to the construction site — and a month later I found myself another one. 640″ style=”display: block;” />

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“The husband takes and disappears”

Uzbek journalists told me — there are forums on the Internet where migrant workers in Russia openly post ads about finding a mate for themselves. In this case, a Muslim marriage is concluded in the presence of the mullah — nikah. 

«A man freely gets himself a second wife, — explains to aif.ru an employee of a law firm in Tashkent Lyubov Aslanova. — For such “registration” sometimes Russian girls who grew up in dysfunctional families agree. They accept Islam thinking — the husband will not drink, will not be engaged in assault, the salary will be brought home. For a while this happens, and then the newly-minted spouse takes and disappears. He does not bear responsibility, because such a marriage is not considered “real”; in the absence of registration in the registry office in both Russia and Uzbekistan. Often, women from Kyrgyzstan working in the Russian Federation agree on nicknames — and also remain without a penny, with a child in their arms. Only one thing can be advised here — you should check the data about your future life partner more carefully.

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“I said it, but I'm shaking” 

I never found out the exact number of abandoned wives in Uzbekistan. The interviewed experts agreed on only one — there are tens of thousands of women. Last year there were 305,000 marriages and 40,000 divorces in the country. True, one should take into account — often women do not file a divorce: for them, this is at least some kind of guarantee that the ex-spouse's family will help financially. “Tajikistan has a state special program where girls get jobs, help them survive, — sighs Shahzoda Mirodov. — We don't have anything. Your man is happy with the other, and you get out with the children as you want — You can’t collect alimony from him, he is in a foreign state. Women tried to fight — gathered in groups, wrote appeals to the Federal Migration Service of Russia so that “traitors” deported back. Answered — this is impossible, because their documents are in order. The fact that the husbands who left us violated the laws in both Russia and Uzbekistan — nobody cares. I’ve just said everything, but I’m shaking myself so that my husband doesn’t read it. — «Why?» — ««And if it does not work out for him in Russia and he comes back? Honestly, I would forgive him.

How guest workers get second wives in Russia

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How guest workers get second wives in Russia

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